Get one! It's good for your mental well being. I like Emily Norris's Me-Time video. Yes, she's pushing Garnier a bit but choose your favourite products or whatever is on offer in the supermarket. The FlyLady also has some good tips - www.FlyLady.net. Happy Mum = happy family!

Holidays are the time for 'me time', or is it? Do you trade sleep time for 'me time'? I'm hearing that many of us do - catch up on Facebook chatting to friends, reading a book, maybe watching something more age appropriate than Disney or the Inbetweeners. 'Me time' is important. It helps us from running on empty and giving when there is hardly anything else to give but sleep is important too. Our bodies and brains need it to rest, repair and recuperate. Sleep helps to keep our heart healthy. Our cardiovascular system is constantly under pressure and sleep helps to reduce the levels of stress and inflammation in the body - and high levels of "inflammatory markers" are linked to heart disease and strokes. Get your sleep and get some 'me time'!

Erikson's theory of psychosocial development identifies eight stages in which a healthy individual passes through from birth to death. At each stages we encounter different needs, ask new questions and meet people who influence our behaviour and learning. Our hopes, motivation and ambitions change. We discover more about ourselves and can make conscious change if we so wish.

Butterflies go through four distinct life stages before reaching their final beautiful imago stage. We too go through various life stages and some can be particularly gruelling or challenging, but like the butterfly, we can emerge, maybe not so beautiful, but definitely older and wiser!

Finding it difficult to explain our struggles with life or ask for support is a universal issue - yes, it seems to be harder for certain genders and cultures but the shame impacts many of us. Sadly, it is still the perception that we are weak if we are struggling but is it?

How do you know when you are better? How do you know if you don't need counselling or therapy any more? Can you 'get over' or do you 'live with'? If you are beginning to notice the beautiful, your mind is more at ease or there are longer periods between the dark then you might just be on your way.

Isn't this lovely? What a super example of growth mindset! She keeps going until she gets there. No one came to her rescue. She showed resilience and perseverance. And what a patient, little pony!

When I read these words I was very touched. So often bereaved people share how sad it makes them when others 'ignore' them or don't mention their family member or friend when they do talk. Sad feelings don't go away because they are not talked about. Acknowledge the feelings, validate the memories and help process grief. Thank you Butterflies and Pebbles.

As I'm about to disappear off for a couple of weeks holiday...and sitting with a fair amount of guilt for this 'indulgence', I thought it only right to remind myself of good self care. It's healthy, it's respecting yourself and it is ensuring you can be there for others. So, whilst sitting here, what would you put on your plan?

You don't owe anyone anything...or do you? Have a think about your boundaries and being drawn into conflict or feeling you have to justify yourself. It's okay to say no...

Rio Ferdinand opens up about the sudden loss of his wife to cancer and shares how hard he found it to grieve for her due to years of repressing his emotions. If this tough man can do it, then so can the rest of us. It's not easy but we can all get better at sharing feelings and being supportive through just listening and being there. Broadcast on 28/03/2017

Is your glass half-full or half-empty? Or is it refillable? Does a rainy day ruin your plans or does it give you the opportunity to play in the puddles? Your attitude towards things can change your perception of them, so it is important to remember that although we can not always change our situation, we CAN change how we see it. And that, hopefully, means growth.