One of the most common questions I am asked and have questioned myself is "who am I?" It is one of the hardest things in the universe to understand - the interior of our own minds: we may have spent years on this planet before we've grasped even very basic things about who we are and how we function.

When a client’s fear is anchored in real-world figures like Donald Trump, Benjamin Netanyahu, and Nigel Farage, it’s crucial to take their anxiety seriously yet without reinforcing a sense of imminent catastrophe. This sits right at the intersection of realistic concern and anxiety amplification - a clinically rich space to work in.

How can I find friends? This is such an important piece of work and often sits right at the intersection of attachment, shame, power, and lived relational history. When adults struggle to build friendships, it’s rarely about skills alone. It’s usually about: “How safe does connection feel in my body?” So the work is both external (behavioural) and internal (relational/emotional).

The subject of self esteem comes up frequently in the therapy room. How do we really feel about ourselves? Can I advocate for myself? Or do I make myself small? Where does this come from? Self-esteem grows from our lived experiences of agency, competence, belonging, and being seen, or validation.

Did the generation growing up in the 1970s have it better than the generation growing up in the 00s? Big question - and a fun one to tease apart! Yes, there are the advantages often associated with growing up in the 1970s, without turning it into a “kids-these-days” rant (because every generation gains and loses things).

Having recently attended a family funeral, it got me thinking about what is a good life? Can we live quietly and happily and it be a good life? Ovid, writing from the heart of the Roman Empire, offered a piece of advice that feels almost subversive today: live obscurely and quietly. In a culture that prized status, reputation, and proximity to power, Ovid suggested that a good life might be found not in visibility, but in withdrawal.