After a very interesting and educational few days training on how to work with affairs and betrayals in relationships, it really doesn't necessarily mean the end of that relationship. It may even result in a stronger and more rewarding partnership as couples explore why it happened, improve communicating their needs and take responsibility for their actions. Andrew Marshall challenges 3 common myths surrounding affairs.

Do you have a dark side? Are you always sweetness and light? Or is your shadow in control of you? We see the world through the eyes of our own experience. As Jung notes everyone carries a shadow...

Author Brene Brown says you can create a revolution in your life. First, however, you need to come to terms with the false, dangerous stories you tell yourself.

Have you thought why you are attracted to some people but others send you running in the opposite direction? Your own unique love map will hold the answers! But where does that come from? Well, the answer is in your past. The School of Life explains clearly how our relationship template develops and, once we become aware of the bits that aren't so good for us, what we could change so we not only attract less destructive partners but become better partners too.

I find this very powerful. Listening to the words as Harry moves. Watching his movements along with his colour choices. Linking words with movement and colour. Shyness can be crippling. Coming out of your shell - when you feel safe to do so - and being you releases the suppressed enery and allows for more authentic living. Bullying can be behind shyness and can leave lasting damage. When we become aware of this then, perhaps, it is easier to begin healing.

Having self-compassion is not the same as being selfish or self centred. Acknowledge your pain, your failure, your difficulty. It is part of the human journey. It will lessen, it will pass and it will teach...in time. What kindness would you give your friend suffering as you are now? Be that friend to yourself. If we cannot look after ourselves, we will not be strong enough to look after others.

Maysoon Zayid saying it as it is. Yes, she is inspirational for many reasons. She is also funny and self deprecating. Struggling with New Year resolutions? Well, if she can then I can can...

Pretty good list about how to respect someone's space!

How caught up can we get in dramas - our own, other peoples? How many of us feel we are not living unless something is 'kicking off'? By creating disturbances I can test others out, get my adrenaline running, be at the centre or just start it off then retreat... My mind is busy thinking about what is going on - trying to predict, explain, justify, blame, deny... All this is hard, hard work and maybe, maybe I am avoiding asking for what I really want; really need. However, if I want peace and harmony I must first look to myself and my behaviour. What can I do to prevent disturbances? Can I assert myself in a non aggressive way - a different way? Different to that which doesn't seen to work?

Maybe because it is 'Black Friday' I just don't want to buy anything. The thought of the crowds sends me running in the opposite direction. And do I really need this stuff? Do I need to get more stuff just because it is Christmas? This year my family have agreed a £10 present limit on each person to open on the big day...and then we are going to plan a day out. I don't know what yet but we've decided shared experiences might be more fun and fulfilling than yet more stuff. Perhaps less bah humbug and more hey, ho than I thought

When is the last time you did absolutely nothing for 10 whole minutes? Not texting, talking or even thinking? Mindfulness expert Andy Puddicombe describes the transformative power of doing just that: refreshing your mind for 10 minutes a day, simply by being mindful and experiencing the present moment. (No need for incense or sitting in uncomfortable positions.)