How close are we to a change in our lives? We focus so much on the accidents, the illness or people leaving us yet overlook the possibility of good things; the new loves, promotions or invitations. We are all 'beautifully fragile' ...

Have you thought why you are attracted to some people but others send you running in the opposite direction? Your own unique love map will hold the answers! But where does that come from? Well, the answer is in your past. The School of Life explains clearly how our relationship template develops and, once we become aware of the bits that aren't so good for us, what we could change so we not only attract less destructive partners but become better partners too.

Why do certain relationships just not work? Why is it hard to know what some people want and why other people are just too needy? Or why do relationships fizzle out when all you want is closeness? And why do the words 'love' or 'commitment' scare some people off but not others? Well, the answers could be in your attachment style. Here, the wonderful School of Life explain clearly and succinctly what attachment theory is, from John Bowlby who pioneered the theory in the 1950s to reflecting on your own attachment style be it secure, anxious or avoidant and what happens when we pair up with someone else.

Absolutely! Nobody is broken. We are just different. We are a product of our experiences both good and bad...and nobody is immune from that. We weren't perfect in the first place but all of us are constantly changing with what is going on in our lives. Yes, we sometimes make poor choices and life can throw us a tough time but most of us are doing the best we can. You are not broken. You don't need fixing.

Do you have a dark side? Are you always sweetness and light? Or is your shadow in control of you? We see the world through the eyes of our own experience. As Jung notes everyone carries a shadow...

Author Brene Brown says you can create a revolution in your life. First, however, you need to come to terms with the false, dangerous stories you tell yourself.

I find this very powerful. Listening to the words as Harry moves. Watching his movements along with his colour choices. Linking words with movement and colour. Shyness can be crippling. Coming out of your shell - when you feel safe to do so - and being you releases the suppressed enery and allows for more authentic living. Bullying can be behind shyness and can leave lasting damage. When we become aware of this then, perhaps, it is easier to begin healing.

Having self-compassion is not the same as being selfish or self centred. Acknowledge your pain, your failure, your difficulty. It is part of the human journey. It will lessen, it will pass and it will teach...in time. What kindness would you give your friend suffering as you are now? Be that friend to yourself. If we cannot look after ourselves, we will not be strong enough to look after others.

Maysoon Zayid saying it as it is. Yes, she is inspirational for many reasons. She is also funny and self deprecating. Struggling with New Year resolutions? Well, if she can then I can can...

Pretty good list about how to respect someone's space!

How caught up can we get in dramas - our own, other peoples? How many of us feel we are not living unless something is 'kicking off'? By creating disturbances I can test others out, get my adrenaline running, be at the centre or just start it off then retreat... My mind is busy thinking about what is going on - trying to predict, explain, justify, blame, deny... All this is hard, hard work and maybe, maybe I am avoiding asking for what I really want; really need. However, if I want peace and harmony I must first look to myself and my behaviour. What can I do to prevent disturbances? Can I assert myself in a non aggressive way - a different way? Different to that which doesn't seen to work?