How close are we to a change in our lives? We focus so much on the accidents, the illness or people leaving us yet overlook the possibility of good things; the new loves, promotions or invitations. We are all 'beautifully fragile' ...

Have you thought why you are attracted to some people but others send you running in the opposite direction? Your own unique love map will hold the answers! But where does that come from? Well, the answer is in your past. The School of Life explains clearly how our relationship template develops and, once we become aware of the bits that aren't so good for us, what we could change so we not only attract less destructive partners but become better partners too.

Why do certain relationships just not work? Why is it hard to know what some people want and why other people are just too needy? Or why do relationships fizzle out when all you want is closeness? And why do the words 'love' or 'commitment' scare some people off but not others? Well, the answers could be in your attachment style. Here, the wonderful School of Life explain clearly and succinctly what attachment theory is, from John Bowlby who pioneered the theory in the 1950s to reflecting on your own attachment style be it secure, anxious or avoidant and what happens when we pair up with someone else.

Absolutely! Nobody is broken. We are just different. We are a product of our experiences both good and bad...and nobody is immune from that. We weren't perfect in the first place but all of us are constantly changing with what is going on in our lives. Yes, we sometimes make poor choices and life can throw us a tough time but most of us are doing the best we can. You are not broken. You don't need fixing.

I read this one dreary morning when it was a little difficult to be positive. Ahhh, we all make an impact on the world around us so make it a kind one.

Ever wondered why it is so hard to break an addiction? Having just recently attended a fascinating training event on Sex Addiction run by Paula Hall, I was very impressed with her explanation of how our brains work aka the neuroscience of addiction. February may be the time people think of romance but I thought I'd share her mind map for sex and porn addiction particularly now opportunity can be regarded as a key factor in addiction. I also think the road to Brighton metaphor works well for other addictions too.

This January has been a terrible month for losing some well known people. The death of David Bowie certainly rocked my world having been a fan since childhood. His death had a greater impact on me than I would have ever had imagined. Lemmy too, a great character. Alan Rickman whose voice I loved and was so memorable as Severous Snape - who else could play that character so well? Now, Terry Wogan. Another personality I grew up with from Radio 2, to Blankity Blank and Children in Need. So, this poem from Gwen Flowers which is so beautiful and sums up how grief is for her and, I believe, many of us. We endure it and it is a new way of seeing. We are different. XX

Watch this beautiful scene from Luc Besson's Angel-A. How does it make you feel? What do you see when you look in the mirror? Do you concentrate on your faults or the kindness in your eyes? What would your Angel say to you? Pull your shoulders back, raise your chin and smile. Is that different to how you normally stand? Be proud. You've made it this far.

This takes me back to my very first week of counselling training when one of my peers broke down in tears and many of us rushed to her side offering words of solace, comforting arms and tissues to "dry those tears." Our wise tutor stopped us there and suggested we go back to our seats. What were we doing? Who were we doing it for? She asked us kindly. Why, the tears unsettled us - made us sad, reminded us of our own fragility, trials and tribulations that life throws at us. So, shall we block the tears? Shut them down? Repress or supress the feelings? She went on. Try sitting with the feelings. What happens then? How do you feel when it is okay to cry? As I said, she was a wise woman.

Still waiting for 'the One' to walk into your life? Has it been a stressy time and you are doubting 'the One' you are with? Do you find yourself being particularly picky? Dan Savage may just offer an alternative view to finding that special person. The Price of Admission or rather, what we can compromise on to share our lives with someone whose qualities support us. And, by the way, it works both ways. Are you perfect?

A fabulous GIF for you, created by BreatheAware and featured on the wonderful Blurt Foundation's website. I find these really help to steady breathing when feeling anxious. It gives us something positive to focus on too when our thoughts are hurting us.

I particularly love number 8 - "In five years, will this even matter?"