“We have this argument all the time.” “I feel like we're having the same conversation over and over again.” “Nothing ever gets resolved.” If you are in a relationship, you may recognise these thoughts. Perhaps one of you feels that the other doesn't listen. The other feels constantly criticised. One partner wants to talk about the problem, while the other needs space. One feels rejected and pursues the conversation...the argument isn't really the problem. The cycle betwee